Acceptance

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I have been stuck in a few problems lately, that persisted back to back in my life until I sat down one day and decided to do something about it. I have always believed that problem-less lives do not exist, however it fascinates me to have known that different approaches can have a noticeable impact on how far does your problem affect you and your routine. I have concluded, the all-rounder approach is- Acceptance.

Acceptance, as I call it, is the process of undertaking the responsibility of, and embracing the situation at hand without willing for it to be changed by extrinsic factors. 

What ever you receive from the world can not always be in your center of influence, but the way you choose to welcome it, surely is. If, anything that is being negatively affective is greeted with acceptance by an individual, it proves to dignify and re-assure his sense of self-worth by giving him greater control over himself. It frees him from the constant effort of searching for cues to substitute the current setting with something else and simultaneously motivates to be genuinely mindful of the situation.

Practically, acceptance is not an option to be chosen right away-for two very important reasons. Firstly because the outcomes may not be immediately gratifying and the process may involve some level of social stigma. This is because, acceptance does not function akin to a replacement. It is not a quick-fix. In a way, that you cannot spontaneously choose it to be a part of your life by just attempting to brace yourself for negativity, since human beings can only brush away their thoughts and not completely fetter them from popping up. While you undergo the process of accepting something, your thoughts begin to challenge your determination. 

Acceptance shows on you. Consequently, for many people it becomes inordinately elusive to exercise it, knowing that the society would not approve of their uncertain behavioral patterns. While it is negotiable that acceptance paces a s a gradual change in one's psychological state, I may confirm, it is not restricted to it. There can be days where you would want to explore the world and take part in every activity. Other days can be a series of staying on bed for the whole time and not wanting to meet anyone. Sometimes you would experience sheer numbness while somedays would bring unmatchable peace. 

This requires courage and strong-headedness.

As time progresses, there will be a mind-boggling shift in personality which would strengthen the roots of acceptance, allow you to exercise greater power over your thoughts and make you more convinced of your approach towards life.

Another obstacle that returns people half-way from their dream psychological state is partial acceptance. In fact, half-hearted forms of embracement can exacerbate the problem, making the entire process to appear undesirable. For acceptance to be fundamentally effective, totality is crucial. You cannot choose to take one and leave the other. In this case; emotions.

When an individual opts for acceptance, there are certain emotions attached to the stimuli that require equal attention. For example, it is not death that you fear but the grief that comes with it. Also it is not the A* that you aim, but the sense of achievement that comes with it.
A study on a 9-yr old Hispanic boy with button phobia revealed that stress-decreasing exposure therapies to a potential stimuli (In this case, buttons) require to be conducted in addition to the emotions attached to it, in order to be effective. Researches have persuasively concluded that it is not the event that threatens or fascinates the human mind but the feelings that are appended to it. 

As I target to draw all strands that foster, and if overlooked, impede one's way to a fulfilling approach that reduces dependency over external sources, I succinctly sum up acceptance to be the continued practice of grit-full courage.

There are plausible observations that make me prioritize a tedious task like acceptance over quick-fixes that have, and do result in gratification instantly. As tempting as these easy-to-implement solutions appear, they end up sapping away your power over your own mind. These ephemeral events such as treating yourself with good food or a pleasing trip to Maldives can undoubtedly make you feel better but as soon as they end, the problem returns, this time with greater intensity. These alternatives may remedy the discomfort but, anyhow, fail to perpetuate it.

Acceptance breeds peace. quick-fixes breed temporary peace.

Acceptance is inherent and entrenched in human nature. It is a compelling force that outgrows all other solutions to a problem. As opposed to what majority of the people think, it is not complacent, because a situation remains unchangeable if not embraced or owned in the first place.

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